Sometimes I feel as though I’m living among a generation of extremists. No, not religious or political extremists (per se), but extremists in, well, everything else.
“that was the funniest thing I’ve ever seen!”
“that was the scariest movie I’ve ever seen!”
“this is the best song ever!”
“He’s the worst actor ever!”
“This is the best burger I’ve ever tasted!”
What happened to the middle ground? When was the last time you heard someone say, “yeah, the movie was pretty good.”? I suspect there’s a good chance you don’t hear that phrase all that often. Is it possible that this generation is so over stimulated with just about everything and nothing all at once that the idea of accurately representing your opinion on a rough 1 to 10 scale is nearly impossible?
I first noticed this back when I was leading a small group. As a vehicle to help along conversations with kids who might otherwise have difficulty speaking up, I would often ask them about their “top five favorite…” you fill in the blank. They had so much trouble pulling it off, I just quit with that technique altogether.
Of course, I’m guilty of this too.
After some reflection on it, it occurred to me that I think this falls somewhat in the same ball-park as Jesus’ commands about sincerity in Matthew 5:37:
“Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil”
Okay, let me be clear. I don’t mean to imply that I think this verse is somehow directly applicable to the topic at hand. And I certainly don’t think our opinionated extremes are necessarily ‘evil’. But I think that part of the point Jesus is making is pretty easily applied.
To let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ be ‘no’ would be to allow your words to mean what they mean. Did I say I would do something? Then I should do it. No ‘oath’ should be required. No personally bloated ‘guarantee’ should be necessary.
So it would be with the way our opinions are laid out for others. I like a movie. Saying, “the movie was great”, should be fully sufficient to communicate that I enjoyed the movie and thought it was worth watching. Blowing it up with, “OMG, that was the best frickin’ movie I’ve ever seen in my whole entire life!” would not only be over-kill, but taxing on the value of our language and the reliability of my opinion.
So, as a generation, lets try an exercise. How about, when a movie/song/tv-show/website/joke/hybrid-farm-animal is just okay, we say something like, I don’t know, “the _______ was okay”. Or when the movie/song/tv-show/website/joke/hybrid-farm-animal was fun, but lacking some important elements, why not say, “I had a good time, but there were some pretty stupid parts.”. This is especially important when talking about hybrid farm-animals.
Perhaps with this experiment we can discover that there are more than two shades in the spectrum between black and white. Who’s with me?

