Something I think that I’m really critical of, at least in my mind, is the church’s general approach to accountability. I rarely see accountability “groups” or “partners” last very long or produce the kinds of results they were hoping for–that is, victory over chronic sin.
After a conversation last night, I think I’ve managed to nail down my grievance with the way most accountability groups work.
If we recognize that in the Christian there are now two natures–Christ’s nature and our old, sinful nature–then we see that in us there are two opposing motives working at pretty much any given time (we can see Paul begin to describe this through Romans 7 and 8). The sanctification process is, by the Spirit, the Christ nature in us winning.
But, most of the time, accountability groups fail to act in light of this spiritual dichotomy in us. In a negative sense, they attempt to beat down the sinful nature, or the sin in particular, inside the person in hopes of therefore achieving victory over the sin.
To make my point clear, I’ll use the example that started the conversation last night.
Lets say there’s two men. One man feels that the Lord wants him to overcome his addiction to smoking. So, he says to his friend– and accountability partner–”I need to quit smoking. Will you please help me to quit smoking?”. The friend of course agrees.
Some time goes by and sooner or later, the man has a lapse in judgment and buys a pack of cigarettes. When his friend sees them in his car, he is very upset at him. He takes the cigarettes, throws them out the window, then threatens something along the lines of, “If I see you have bought cigarettes again, I’m going to punch you in the face.”
The friend’s hope is that fear and shame will cause the man to flee from his addiction to smoking. The friend is attempting to beat down the sin and the sinful nature to achieve victory.
But, this isn’t going to work. It never does.
We don’t have to look far into scripture to see that there were thousands of years of biblical history in which God repeatedly punched Israel in the face for their constant and chronic sins. They always returned to them.
If man’s brutal attack on his sin and sinful nature could have been successful, Jesus would not have needed to die. Man has never, by sheer will power, or fear, been able to truly defeat sin–and where he has overcome the sins of his hands, they took up residence in his heart. Christ must be the solution to our sin both in justification and sanctification.
So, it seems to me that if accountability largely fails as it attempts to attack and beat down sin and the sinful nature, an adjustment is warranted.
Rather than attacking, in a negative sense, the sin and the sinful nature, accountability ought to appeal positively to Christ’s nature in the believer. If a believer is true, then in him exists the will to stop sinning (Matthew 26:41). No only in his hands but also his heart. Accountability groups ought to seek to encourage in the believer Christ’s nature to increase and overtake sin and the sinful nature.
Man has never and will never be able to overcome sin by his flesh, fore “nothing good dwells in the flesh” (Romans 7:18). To overcome sin, it is the work of the Holy Spirit in the believer’s faith in Christ (Colossians 1:27). Accountability groups should be made up primarily of exhortation and encouragement and almost never of rebuke.
After all, encouragement is one of the church’s primary callings to itself.
Therefore, I believe that in committed accountability relationships, encouragement of a believer’s new nature will go vastly farther than any violent attack on sin and the nature that produces it.